JUNE IN THE PLAYROOM
In the playroom, children have been finding a variety of ways to play with our new colored scarves. On the first day three children rolled in the scarves and covered each other before erupting like volcanos out of the pile. The large chiffon-like squares have been turned into costumes and used as veils, capes and skirts. One child quietly draped the bookcase and computer while another group used the scarves to pull each other on the carpet. The scarves are open ended objects that allow the children to use their imaginations and explore the fabric in new and unexpected ways.
Wiggle, Giggle & Munch
Wednesday mornings from 10 – 12 we have Wiggle, Giggle & Munch for children who are into movement. The morning includes physical activities, a craft, circle time and a nutritious snack. June dates are the 1st, 8th and 15th. All our programs are run on a drop-in basis. You do not have to pre-register. Just come on the days that work for you and your family. For more information, give us a call at 204-788-8055.
On Mondays at 11:30 a music therapist comes and leads parents and children in a ½ hour of singing and stories. Children learn songs, do a little dancing and make a lot of wonderful noise.
HELPING YOUR CHILD EXPRESS HIS OR HER FEELINGS
When their kids have an outburst, many parents give them a “time-out.” Kristin Neff, however, suggests giving your kids a “time-in.” In her book she includes a helpful exercise based on Coleman’s MAP protocol. It aims to help your child process “big feelings,” such as a tantrum or crying.
When kids misbehave, sometimes it’s because they’re seeking support and connection, Neff explains. This exercise helps you connect to your child and teaches them to express their emotions healthfully.
According to Neff, this exercise “allows your child’s feelings to ‘be felt’ and accepted. It shows your child that you are willing to help him and that your love means you will be welcoming and accepting of his emotions – even difficult ones.”
Neff gives the following suggestions for creating a “time-in”:
First, make sure you’re calm yourself. This way, you can truly tend to your child’s needs. If you’re not, tell your child that you’ll need 10 seconds to calm down.
Have a specific spot for “time-in,” like a chair or cushion you can move throughout the house. Both you and your child will sit there.
Invite your child to come to this spot. “If he is emotionally out of control and presents a danger to others, he may need help getting there.”
Keep your tone “firm, reassuring and kind.” Be sensitive and sympathetic. Try to be present, in the moment.
Observe your child closely and try to figure out the feelings and meaning beneath their behavior.
Help your child describe their feelings when they’re finally relatively calm. Neff suggests saying something like: “You look like you’re struggling with this …” or “This looks hard for you; are you angry/afraid/sad?”
Wait for your answer, and listen intently. “Acknowledge and accept the answer (or lack thereof).”